The Jealousy ...
What is it?
According to Wikipedia:
The jealousy is a feeling connected to the very nature of human beings. Selfishly speaking, it can be a form of fear of a return to a pain (pain possibly caused by a previous report in which the trust has ceased to exist)
Yes "triggers" in the subject jealous or possessive impulse to excess Protection against a person .
But it is possible that the rationality of human beings can not overcome our animalistic impulses? but especially because it comes this feeling?
simply because it is a form of protection to themselves, especially when you interact with your partner in a relationship you always want to have everything under control, so as to avoid unpleasant surprises, but alas no one will ever put lead to your partner, this involves long sessions in which our brain processes the thoughts worse ....
jealousy is present in one or both of the following components:
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fear of abandonment, loss, separation, what is considered proper and necessary for their well-being; -
jealousy and envy of others, which could share what is ours. Jealousy of the features that the rival has and we have not. In this case, the jealousy is not addressed as much to your partner but is jealous of the third, and then moves on the edge of envy.
But first we analyze the various classes of jealousy
CLASSIFICATION OF JEALOUSY
One of the first scholars of jealousy was Freud who has investigated from the perspective of psychodynamic and evolutionary arriving to assume three different types of jealousy (1922, Some neurotic mechanisms in jealousy, paranoia and homosexuality) :
1) Jealousy competitive or normal
2) Jealousy projected;
3) delusional jealousy
normal jealousy that manifests itself mainly with pain, anxiety, distress, caused by the cognitive-emotional experience of having lost a loved one, from hostile feelings toward his rival, with an attitude self-critical face to attach to themselves the responsibility for the emotional loss and narcissistic injury.
Jealousy comes projected for both sexes, from betrayals already experienced over a lifetime affective or unconscious impulses to the betrayal (see proverb: Those who think the old). In marital relationships must be resisted to continue to avoid temptations to betray. One who perceive in themselves 1'esistenza of these temptations will implement an unconscious mechanism to relieve their discomfort: the other will cast their tendencies to treason. In this respect Freud cites as an example of jealousy projected Desdemona:
I called my love traitor. And he answered me? ... If on the other women I delight I lay in bed with other men
Freud observes that people suffering from jealousy projected estimate flirtatious behavior like a betrayal.
delusional jealousy is determined by the betrayal trends that have been removed but the objects of these fantasies are of the same sex of the person who brings into being. For Freud the delusional jealousy refers to a form of latent homosexuality that presses to manifest itself. As an attempt to boost defense against a homosexual too strong it can be described by the formula: "I'm not that I love is that she loves him." And 'as if the other becomes the subject of jealousy, the rival or rivals.
From this brief tour we can say that jealousy and emotional dependence are two sides of the same coin. If there is one is very likely to be present the other.
How do you fight?
Simply with the help of its partners and with a constant self-control over emotions, but it takes time ... so when in doubt, do not hold the Talk and bad thoughts in, and slowly more and donate more trust to your partner, you will see that with time you will be much more permissive towards your him / her. So the best solution is to speak and associate companies as much as possible themselves and their own fears and obsession.
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